Just read this and am glad I did. Its an honest, thoughtful piece thats quite relevant. I'll share it in a sec.
Im wondering what year this was. I
feel bad for Katie and for you. She had significant longterm problems obviously, but no thats not yours to deal with.
She sounds like a ppl pleaser when it comes to ingratiating herself into Charlottesville. Maybe she actually hated her boss & her job but knew that nobody wanted to hear negativity from a newcomer?
And CVille can be difficult when you move here. There are so many people who grew up here and know each other well. Then youve got the new ones who move here and have to figure out the town. Fast. These folks need a book like 'Charlottesville for Dummies' to navigate the town and ppl they meet.
I liked yr take on that. Whether true or false, you get a reputation fast amongst the longterm Cville folks. And ultimately, that rep is nonsense. Just some other ppl's largely defensive (mildly threatened ) interpretation of you.
Does anyone really know anybody? We only tend to know what we've heard from others, and truth is, those things we heard are probably far more complicated than theyre presented.
Especially in a small town where people talk--and sometimes for the purpose of ostracizing others, simply out of spite or some other personal motive.
When I hear something bad about someone locally, I ask myself "who is this telling me this? And why are they telling me something so shitty?"
Just some observations. Thanks for this piece Joel.
Ha...glad you like it. Ppl do need one. I got here in 97 and it was a steep learning curve. Not just steep, it's different than any place I've lived. Athens was small but it was a Mecca so it didn't have that added layer of the indigenous locals network.
What year did you move here? Any good stories?
We used to hang out outside at Miller's a good bit back then. Fun times until you had to pee and there was an inch of piss covering the floor. I quit drinking years ago but still have nightmares about it.
Just read this and am glad I did. Its an honest, thoughtful piece thats quite relevant. I'll share it in a sec.
Im wondering what year this was. I
feel bad for Katie and for you. She had significant longterm problems obviously, but no thats not yours to deal with.
She sounds like a ppl pleaser when it comes to ingratiating herself into Charlottesville. Maybe she actually hated her boss & her job but knew that nobody wanted to hear negativity from a newcomer?
And CVille can be difficult when you move here. There are so many people who grew up here and know each other well. Then youve got the new ones who move here and have to figure out the town. Fast. These folks need a book like 'Charlottesville for Dummies' to navigate the town and ppl they meet.
I liked yr take on that. Whether true or false, you get a reputation fast amongst the longterm Cville folks. And ultimately, that rep is nonsense. Just some other ppl's largely defensive (mildly threatened ) interpretation of you.
Does anyone really know anybody? We only tend to know what we've heard from others, and truth is, those things we heard are probably far more complicated than theyre presented.
Especially in a small town where people talk--and sometimes for the purpose of ostracizing others, simply out of spite or some other personal motive.
When I hear something bad about someone locally, I ask myself "who is this telling me this? And why are they telling me something so shitty?"
Just some observations. Thanks for this piece Joel.
Ha...glad you like it. Ppl do need one. I got here in 97 and it was a steep learning curve. Not just steep, it's different than any place I've lived. Athens was small but it was a Mecca so it didn't have that added layer of the indigenous locals network.
What year did you move here? Any good stories?
We used to hang out outside at Miller's a good bit back then. Fun times until you had to pee and there was an inch of piss covering the floor. I quit drinking years ago but still have nightmares about it.
Thanks so much for reading! I have trouble remembering what year this was. Probably late 90s? Maybe very early 00s?
"Charlottesville for Dummies" is a perfect book title!